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WAYS TO PROMOTE TODDLER INDEPENDENCE

By on November 21, 2017

Hi Everyone!

It’s no secret that my little lady, Lila, is my BABY. I have defiantly been known to be a helicopter parent because I am pretty much that girl’s shadow. Since she is my first and only kid I have been keen on not missing a moment. I mean, not missing a singlemoment. She spends nearly one hundred percent of her time with me. I rarely will have my mom watch her for any reason. I can’t explain why I feel so attached to her, I just never want to be without her. Does anybody else feel that way?

Now that Lila is in full on kid mode I wanted to share with you ways that I have been encouraging her independence in different ways around the house. It’s hard for me sometimes to stop myself from just doing everything for her.

 

In The Kitchen

  • If I am cooking in the kitchen, I give Lila a special title of “Kitchen Helper.” She begs to be called this and will do anything I ask as long as she is referred to by this nickname. Figuring this out was a game changer in getting her excited to help out.
  • While in the kitchen I will ask her help for getting ingredients out the refrigerator. She can reach even the highest shelf in our fridge so unless something is really far back or blocked by a lot of other items, she can grab things with ease.
  • When the ingredients are being chopped or mixed I try to include her as much as possible while still being safe. Her favorite thing to do is pour pre-measured ingredients into bowl or mix with spoon in bowl.
  • When lunch is getting cooked I will hand her items to put items in trash. She really loves putting things in the trash can and my husband will ask her to do this from all over the house.

 

Mealtime

  • One thing I have never done is fed Lila. You know like put some on a spoon and fly it into their mouth pretending it’s an airplane? Not me. Ever since Lila started eating solid food I put her plate in front of her with a fork/spoon and let her have at it. At first mealtime was pretty messy, but the better her hands got with utensils the less messy it became. Since she has never had help, she doesn’t expect it. She is very independent when it comes to eating and even picking what she is hungry for.
  • I usually will offer two options and let her pick. This makes it easy because she has control over what she is eating while I get to pick what the options are. We do this for snacks and full meals.
  • When mealtime is over Lila will actually ask for a wipe and wipe her own face. It is something she started doing all on her own and I wouldn’t have it any other way. She sometimes needs help with her hands and if she asks I will help her.

Dressing

  • I have shared this before but Lila’s Montessori closet has a clothing rack with all of her available options. The majority of her outfits that she wears inside or outside daily are all created by her. I do monitor which selections go on the rack, but when it comes to picking outfits it is all her. Unless we are taking photos where she needs to be wearing a specific outfit. I really do try to never go against her outfit choices once they have been picked out.
  • Things that she can do by herself while getting dressed/undressed include:
  • pulling her shirt off of her head
  • pushing her arms through sleeves 
  • pulling her socks off 
  • putting her shoes on
  • pulling her shoes off
  • putting shoes in the shoes basket by our front door

Laundry

  • I have shared this before but Lila’s Montessori closet has a hamper where she puts her own clothes in a dirty bin after they have been worn.
  • When the bin fills up she will help me transfer the clothes from bin to washer, washer to dryer, and dryer to bin.
  • We are having a hard time learning how to fold without turning the clothing into scrunched up piles. We will get there! haha. (Tips welcomed!)

 

In The Bathroom

  • Washing handsis something that I do need to watch her do because she is up on a high stool. But she does the water and soap all on her own.
  • Letting me know she needs a new diaper. She will always tell me when she needs a new diaper and even go and get one for me to change her.Potty training is around the corner and that’s a whole new ball game.
  • This is simple but I alwayslet her pick which towel to use when she gets out of the bath. She will pick it before hand and we use it when she needs to dry off.

 

 

I hope you enjoyed these simple ways I am encouraging independence at home. We are adding to the list everyday it seems that before I know it I’ll have a little citizen on my hands.

*Photos by Rebecca Orlandini Photography

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LET’S CHAT ABOUT SLOW PARENTING

By on October 18, 2016

Believe it or not in those 9 everlasting months of being pregnant I read a total of ZERO baby books.  The occasional Pin on Pinterest would catch my eye, and I would flip through the occasional parenting magazine while waiting in the doctor’s office, but for the most part I made a conscious choice not to spend my time reading baby books. Looking back on this choice it seems silly that I was so anti-preparation. I never attended a birth class and I skipped the hospital tour. Perhaps it was my severe state of denial during pregnancy or perhaps it was my fear of learning all of these ‘suppose to’ things and then failing at them.

 Slow Parentingwas something that I adapted and was able to identify with immediately once having Lila. The concept of slow parenting is simple, it’s doing everything at the right speed for your child and being totally present in each moment.

Raising a child shouldn’t be a race to each milestone, it should be filled with love and constant attention every step of the way. This is why I never put Lila a schedule, keeping our moments enriched and natural listening to each other’s cues is what worked best for us. It’s stressful to have alarms going off and having your day revolving around something that makes life seem so rushed. I wanted to soak it all in and savor every second. It’s a refreshing reminder to slow down to actually enjoy moments and adventures.

Having a husband that feels the same way is a huge factor to why this works so well for us. If our daughter wants to sleep, we let her sleep. If our daughter wants to eat, we let her eat. If our daughter wants to stay at the park for two hours, we’re coming home with sunburns. It’s natural for us and it keeps things light. We love to take her places and do things together and I love seeing her curiosity in everything we do.

As Lila gets older and as we look back on when she was a newborn or just a few months old, we don’t feel an ounce of sadness. We were there. Like really, really there. We look back and our hearts feel full knowing that we there raising her and teaching her and loving her. We don’t look back and say “Dang, we really should have gone on dates and gone out alone more.” We are so grateful that each other feels the same way about raising our child and that we have savored each moment so intensely as a family.

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THINGS I DO WITH MY TODDLER EVERYDAY

By on October 5, 2016

I was recently interviewed by friend Corri from Glitter and Bubblesas a Rad Mom. In the interview one of the questions she asked me was, “Give us a glimpse into the timeline of an average day from the time you wakeup until you go to bed.”

I was completely trumped by this question because my instinctive response was “It’s complete chaos until one of us falls asleep.” And that used to be true, but it’s not anymore, and it was a great reminder to wake up everyday and be grateful for where my family is now and to make the most of it. Ever since this interview and making this schedule I noticed we have had easier and happier days together.

An average day for us at home looks like this:

8:00-8:30Wake Up

8:30-9:30Breakfast for Lila (yogurt and fruit) while she watches Elmo or Sofia the First. During this hour I do most of my daily workload.

9:30-10:30I do circuits of walking/jogging/sprinting with Lila in the jogger

10:30-11:30Lunchtime. We will either stop by the market on our jog and get fresh fish or chicken, if not we keep a well stocked fridge of choices.

11:30-12:30I give Lila an after lunch bath and get her into jammies.

12:30 – 3:30 *ideally* Lila takes a nap while I do computer work finishing anything that didn’t get done in the morning.

3:30 – 5:30Afternoon walk and outdoor play.

5:30 – 6:30Dinnertime. I make dinner while Lila plays with her toys and a show plays, then we eat dinner together.

6:30 – 7:30Playtime in Lila’s room.

7:30 – 8:30I give Lila a bath, put her jammies, and get her to sleep for the night.

8:30 – 10:30During this time I catch up on any work I wasn’t able to get done during nap time, and this is when my husband gets home from work. Once he gets home we have our nightly “Netflix & Snacks” and catch each either up on our days.

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A BIG TIP FOR EASIER DIAPER CHANGES

By on October 4, 2016
We never had a terrible time with diaper changes, although some required much more effort on my part to supply distractions. I noticed the times where my daughter was playing and I would pick her up to get her diaper changed she was resistant. I finally decided to come to her when it was time for a diaper change.
I’m pretty big into Slow Parenting and also like to create as little rules as possible that aren’t safety related. A minor issue we were facing was diaper changing becoming more and more taxing. When I heard about the Ubbi Diaper Storage Caddy I checked it out and was amazed by how well received the product was from the reviews.
I decided to give it a try and I was amazed at the instant improvement it made. The ease of picking up the diaper caddy and taking it to my daughter wherever she may be when it’s time for a diaper change leaves her much less frustrated. I simply lay her down instead of transporting her and it makes all the difference.
The caddy itself comes with a soft, easy-to-clean changing mat and a slot to store it in. That way wherever you take the caddy there’s a mat to lay your babe down on. The Ubbi Wipes Dispenser has a convenient window to check when wipes are getting low, which I really love. There’s also a drawer where I store a diaper cream and a small toy in case she still needs a minor distraction.

The ever changing location of the diaper change leaves my little one completely unfazed and sometimes she doesn’t even notice. If your little is having trouble with diaper changes,  maybe they just need a traveling location.

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